Sara Smile

"Sara Smile"

This should be my Mom's theme song.

Mom you have taught me great things. You are the only one to be here the whole time and I love you for that. I have honored you like you taught me. By doing what I say like graduating HS on time, being a responsable father to my children, because I Am Response Able.

The love you have show me allows me to know love.

I want to thank God for giving you to me, and thank you for wanting me. You had me at a time in your life when not having a child could of been the best decision. You have alway's put me first and I know that because you left my dad only to find my pop's.

All I'm trying to say is I Love you, respect you, honor you & I am proud to be your son. If I don't tell you enough or show you enough, just trust that you are enough.

Love you mom
"Because when I feel I can't go on, I just hold you". Sara Smile

Chuck

I Never...

I am blessed with this day. This day is a blessing that took me years to appreciate.

Grandpa,
I never told you I loved you enough, now I tell everyone.

I never understood some of the thing you were telling me. Because you were teaching a boy how to be a man.

I never liked some of the food you cooked, now I wish I could try again.

I never got to thank you for loving my grandma, because she has so much love and needs some back now.

I never thanked you for teaching me not to drink the grapes, while watching you drink the grapes.

I never had the chance, but I just did it.

With all the Love, Honor and Respect, I love & Honor you on this Veterans Day 2009

Love you Pops

Bam

Making a difference

I just received a email with this subject "Making a difference". It hit me pretty good because we all want to feel connected.

It reminds me of my grandma, I use to think we had the biggest family in the world. The reason is because everyone would come into her office and call her "mom". I ask that we all respect and honor everyone in the world.

I was just telling someone that I would not want to be the only person to survive a major devastation to the world. The reason is we rely on each other and we all have a part to play in this world. He said kind of like "I Am Legend" I said exactly.

We the people just need to hear it so we can feel that we are one in this union.

Namaste

That is OBMO

"Touched" - Its a Eternity to come

Touched:

I just listened to a speech I gave when I was a member of Toastmasters back in 2006

This speech was to be about me and I said "this is the hardest speech I would ever make because of this fact of needing to talk about myself.

I was touched, I was touched by my creator.
"I am better then who I use to be but I am not yet who I inspire to be" OBMO

Most won't start to take part in one's own life or health until you get a chronic disease William Osler

God is a present help in my life because I am here OBMO

Dec. 31st 2005 God wrote the below letter to me:

Its a Eternity to come, The Moment:
To my son you have been a good son you have withstood all the trials of life and not given up. I gave you everything that you needed and will need in this life, I gave them to you at birth. The time since then I have used your experiences to get you to know that you have had the power all the time. "There's no place like home" remember that one? The home is inside of you thank you for trusting in me and trusting in yourself. I want to also thank you for continuing to do my work, I will continue to do yours as well. I will open the heavens and send you another blessing, cause you have already been blessed you don't yet have room to received the blessing I have for you.

Thanks for co-creating with me it will all come together.

Namaste

And that is OBMO

What Are You Going to Do..

What are you going to do with all that Money?

I heard it said that if you have more Money then you know what to do with, it's like stealing. 

 

That is very interesting to me because I know what to do with my money.  I have been thinking about a Foundation in my Grandma's name Mrs. Walker maybe call it the "How can I Help Foundation".

 

See I have dreamed about being rich in the monetary way for as long as I can remember.  I have seen families raised in cars, trucks & van's to say the least.  I know what resources used in the way's she taught me can change the world not to mention what doing the right things does for one's own self.  Because the gift is in the giving so what are you giving is what keeps coming to mind.

 

This is something I desire because my grandma's mission is not complete and any of you that know her mission have a part to play in moving it forward.  She has perpetuated Great things in all of us that have been touched by her, these things are so great that they reach out beyond the ones that have be directly touched by her.  

 

My mission today is to help someone build a bridge to the dreams they dream and sorry folks but that in some cases requires money.  Cornel West just said  "Oppressed people are preoccupied with survival rather than the struggle for freedom".  WOW is all I can say to that.  Mrs. Walker would say it like this "My mission is to help people in need of basic essentials".  WOW is all I can say about that.

 

A Foundation that provides affordable house for people to get rental history.  As well as allows them to focus on freedom rather than survival of life's challenges.

This foundation will also support nourishment through a food shelf network similar to the food bank she relied on.

We will also have a clothing shelf that help cloth the needy as well so everyone can have the ability to dress for the job they want.

 

The last thing is a Free service to get your taxes done for qualified people based on need for one of the above services.

 

This is what she did in my eye's if someone that was around for only a couple years more then me know different please let me know.  Because I don't know anyone that spent more time with her then me.

 

I am not perfect and my GOD is not done with me, so don't judge me.  I am only a product of my environment and that is why I am working so hard to create the environment I want "Basic Essentials for All".

 

Thanks again for planting good seeds and thanks Lord for keeping her in my life.

 

And that is OBMO

 

Namaste

 

Sweating Out Need for Comfort

Sweating out my need to always be comfortable in a Sweat Lodge.

I will never forget this day I went to the lodge. Let me first tell you how it came up.

It was back when I first started responding YES to things.
Keep in mind this was back when we were a little more well off so we thought. I say that because when my wife asked me to go I was thinking something different, like a warm building with changing area.

When we get to the place I notice it's a farm or something like that and it's dark. We don't know how much it will cost, I am mad because I don't know what is going on, I am from the cities but out in the sticks where people get killed. Ain't that funny. People die in the cities all the time.

Soon we see the person in charge and I ask all my questions like:
Q: Where do we change?
A: Theres a spot you can change by the lodge.
Q: How much is this?
A: No charge. If anyone charges for this it is not real. Some may charge $5-10 to pay for space but not more then that.

At this point I don't know what I said yes to or why, FEAR is kicking in. Sorry I forgot to tell you it is Winter and yes we have snow on the ground.

We start walking to the lodge about 2-3 blocks at least with snow to my knee almost. When we get there we see the River and this little dome. I did not even think this was it, one because I'm looking for building two I can't fit in there.

Turns out the building to change was no building. Change from street clothes to sweat lodge clothes outside standing in snow. Guess what the Universe said "YES" we got you.

This I will keep short because it is different for everyone. But for me 6ft 3in 300 pounds I was NOT Comfortable at all. I found the peace of mind I needed by sitting on ground sweating for at least an hour. Not to mention the family of mice the hide behind me. The last 30 min. I sweated, was calm, relaxed and felt one with the Spirts.

I want to thank my wife Nikki DiVirgilio for allowing the space for me to grow in my way. This was an experience of a life time.

And that is OBMO

You Are The Cleaner...

You are the Cleaner of your Glass Ceiling.

When you want to go to the place that only you can see, you have to just do it (Clean the Glass).  If you think the people around you allow or limit you to climb the latter you should start praying to them. 

 

I am saying this because if have heard to many stories of people going beyond their perceived limitations of being a gutter child, raise in a single parent household, Drug Dealers, etc..  If you can see yourself past that glass ceiling then you can break it, if you think you can't break through you can't. 

 

So for me that is what makes you the cleaner of your Glass Ceiling.  Clean that Glass and when someone steps on it start cleaning, when someone obstructs your view, start cleaning.  The secret is to have the resolve to do what is in you to do on a universal level. 

 

After you do it then share it, after you share it give it away.  The gift is in the giving and we have enough to share.

 

If you vision is not clear get out the cleaner and start cleaning.  You can do it, we all can.  We hare built to exceed our thought of I can only do this when.  If you put your mind to it you can because with the power of the creator on your side, what are you not able to do?  I will tell you that you can do it, if you don't trust me look at all the things of your past that you have created with the same power.  It is going to be easy to notice the negative things but I say look at the positive ones because the way to manifest is the same. 

 

The only question is "What do you want".

 

Everyone around me is growing in the direction that they have decided and what you don't realize is the lesson you will gain will be greater the affliction.

 

And that is OBMO

 

Connecting With Energy

Have you wanted to connect with like minded people? I do and have with this new form of social media. It is what most people long for, to have connection with others and self.

We are all energy and we are all connected. Knowing & trusting we are connected is what I am talking about.

I am on Twitter @iObmo and this like most other things I resisted. It fits right into my quote of "What you resist the most you need the most". I say that because these types of thing seem to take up so much of my childs time. Since I feel I don't have a lot of time I did not want to Tweet.

I started thinking that Facebook is good to stay connected with people I know. I figured Twitter would be good for people I don't yet know on that level. So I am Tweeting and loving it.

The transfer of energy is amazing because we are usually on the same page with our Tweets on issues and thoughts. I see it like this, nothing happens by mistake. Deepak, Tony, Cornel & Les following me is no accident, it is what was needed on some level.

Everyone of them have given me meat to chew on for a lifetime. The creator has used them to raise my energy and I am sure the same for them.

I want to thank all of my followers because sharing yourself does not always come easy, but it does come when you are connected to the source.

Have a Great Day and don't forget you could be the energy to change someone's life.

That is OBMO

What Would You Do?

What would you do when someone tell you they are dying of Cancer?

Well that happened to me and to be honest with you I did not know what to say. It hurts because of the obvious fact but when a person is not willing to fight what do you do? You fight for them because the battle is in the mind.

It reminds me of when my Uncle lost his leg in a work related accident. I remember wanting to fight someone at his job. I remember driving out to his job looking for a fight. When I got there it seemed as if nothing was going on and that was weired because it is a production company.

When I finally got to see him in the hospital he had already lost his leg. I just remember seeing how strong he was at least to me he was. I thought that if he is not mad, and he seemed calm I knew what I needed to do.

See that moment was a transfer of energy and his energy was higher then mine until we exchanged then we were on the same level.

My point in this is that the person suffering sets the energy of the situation. I am very sad about this Cancer thing, mostly because I have just got to know him and see to much of myself in him and that hurts. It hurts because when you know what you know and you don't use it the way you want to. Pain is all I can say, it is why I work so hard on doing what I love. That love is speaking to people about my thoughts, but be open or you will miss it.

So to answer the question of What would you do, simple be you the person will need that the most. If they are not the strong one to help raise the energy then it is your lucky day. It is not easy by any means but what else are you going to do.

For this person he claims to need exactly what I give him, and that being my time, patience and straight to the point without hold punches. I always say my tounge is always sharp and I lack the know how to dull it when needed. God is not done with me yet either.

This is for you Cuz in your life's journey and you like us all will make it to the other side. I just hope you enjoyed the moment.

And that is OBMO

You Will Never Know

You will never know how much you have meant to me.

I say this because when I express my true self to you it might be more then you can handle.
I say this because when I express my true self to you it hits to close to home for you.

It could just be that I don't trust you with what is so close to my heart. If that is true then I don't trust myself enough to trust you. I am not shamming myself but keeping it real when most would rather sit down I Rise.

My lesson is I need to trust myself more then anything else in the world. I trusted that I could cut down my pop consumption and it led to to stop drinking completely for 16 day's. Next I will see if I can make it 30 day's and keep moving from there.

The saying back when I sold cars was "You need a check up from the neck up". To me that meant that I needed to get my mind right. I had to get my mind, body, family and my life right to get to where I needed to be.

The longest distance you will ever travel is 18in. It is the distance from your Head to your Heart and your heart is where the love is.

You have to follow that heart to follow your dreams just take a look around at all of the dreaming you have received.

I want to thank you for taking this time to get to know me.

And that is OBMO

MN Nice...

I am ready to leave MN right with you baby a have been for some time. I love LA is and has been my theme song ever since I seen my first Palm Tree’s and all different people from all walks of life. This place does not change much, if you don’t believe me ask someone who has not been here in a while and they will tell you. The same things are happening around here the energy is lower then I need. I am not saying that I will not find the same things in Hawaii or CA but enough people think like me in those places where as here I seem to run into self serving people who will talk kind you your face and talk bad about you behind your back. I need to be around like-minded people that are willing to give hand up not a hand out.

We don't get any mainstream acts and if we do it is for one show. For me I would need to travel to Chicago or Milwaukee to see my type of shows Wayne Dyer (5 yrs ago), Deepak (Never to my knowledge) or TD Jakes (Never to my knowledge) or any of the other types of things I am interested in. Sorry but MN people are comfortable and not willing to step out of the comfortable box to support their true dreams. So read my blog Dream a BIG Dream and comment however you like anonymously or whatever because I am just one who is ready because I AM.

Sorry if I am stepping on anyone toes but if I am that is my point. Get over yourself because you are not that important. Stop worrying about being nice I would rather you tell me the truth to my face then lie behind my back. MN Nice is MN whack ask anyone that is not from here and they will tell you how fake we are

This is not a slam on MN I have found great people here they are just to consumed with themselves to stay engaged in our relationship. Believe it or not it is however me keeping it real in a fake town.

And that is OBMO

Namaste

Dream A Big Dream

Dream a big dream is one of many lessons I have learned.  This one comes from my uncle Vann.

 

It is interesting about my uncle because he like all of my uncles have touched me in different way's, some of them I am not even sure of the lesson at this point in my life.  Just keep living is what comes to mind when I think that because sooner or later it will happen to you/me.  This lesson came up today when I responded to one of those emails that we all get.

 

I will describe this lesson as this.  A picture of a very big house was sent and it looks exactly as I have imagined my "Dream House".  To make it simple it is a big house with many rooms and brick wall around it like a castle with everything this type of house should have or should I say my house should have.

 

What is so funny about this house is when I seen it the first time to told my wife that this my house, the owners just don't know it yet.  My wife responded with "You don't even know where that house is".  I told her yes I don't know but it is mine and I have let it go ever since.  See my wife who I am sure would live in the house does not to my knowledge have any desire to live is such a house.  I however have always wanted to live is a big house, I don't really know why myself other then I could house my guest and family members in the house.  Keeping them far enough away from the main house so we did not drive everyone crazy.

 

In life you will find dream stealers who will try to steal your dream.  I have encountered many of them when we were moving to Hawaii almost six years ago.  I have failed, but not really as it pertains to Dreaming BIG.  I say not really failed because I am better then I was yesterday and living more in the moment so for me that is a very good thing with My Dreaming a BIG Dream .  What is even funnier about this blog post is my wife is at the pond we lived on when we sold the house to move to Hawaii.  I promise I will write about Hawaii soon I just need to explore my feeling a little more for purpose.  My uncle is the only family member I know of that has been to Hawaii and I think he has been 2 or 3 times.  My mom and my Grandma need to go as it is on my bucket list of things to do before I leave this body.

 

Without dreams why live?  My love for my mom is not enough without the dream that she will continue to be Happy, Healthy and Fruitful.  I feel this way about everyone but my Family is at the top of my list.

 

We have up the house we build as well as the house we were married in to move to Hawaii.  The Hawaii deal feel through and we have been on a learning curve every since.  I will make it to Hawaii I know for me the lesson was I need to take a stream of income with me because the Howlie think they own the land that Pele (deity) made.  This is a long story for me but when you go and talk to the natives you will get the same feeling as me.  This song will sum it up for you Bruddah IZ ~ Hawai'i '78

 

So Dream a Big Dream and let and trust that everything that you are going through is in preparation for that dream.  Lead, Follow or Get Out of the Way because this train is moving.  You are welcome to follow me on this blog or http://twitter.com/iobmo

 

That is OBMO

 

 

"It Is Already Raining"

Its raining  in LA, and they said it never rains in Southern California.  It is always raining when where we need it to be.  I have heard a lot of rain stories as well as experienced one of my own. 

 

The one that keeps hitting me is the one Wayne Dyer talked about the village in Hawaii.  Everyone prayed for rain and it did, what was so amazing is when Wayne went outside of the village and asked.  That was some rain we had, the person responded with "What Rain"?  It had only rained on that Church in that area.

 

My example of rain is when I was also in Hawaii with my family in the middle of a drought.  It was a long drought and they had not seen rain for a long time.  It rained that day more then it had it the last few years.  The reason why in my mind is because of our love for Hawaii as well as my wanting nothing but nutrients for everything to grow as we are all beings with greatness.

 

The last story is a real simple one.  I believe it was a Native Indian man who was going to the hills to ask for rain.  Some white people wanted to join in and asked if they could.  The Native said sure they could so they went to the top of the hills.  The Native started telling a story about the place in the hills and how he use to go to this same spot to do the same thing for rain as a child.  After a little while he started heading back, the white people asked I thought we were asking for rain?  Don't we need to kneel down or dance or something?

 

The Native said "Its already raining" and started heading back to the village.  When they got back to the village it started raining or it had already rained.  I apologies for know remember this story as well as I thought I did, but I know the lesson more.  "It is already raining"

 

This brings me to my real point of this blog.  We as a people need to raise the energy to act as if it is raining in LA.  A piece of me is in LA just as a piece of you is there as well.  If you look at some of these pictures it looks like the beginning of the end.  When two or more agree all things are possible.

 

LA get your umbrellas and rain gear ready because I am a co-creator in this universe.  Meet me there and we can co-create together with the creator of all things.

 

Namaste

 

That is OBMO

 

I Wanted That...

You got what you asked for, you always get what you ask for.
Think about it. I have received everything I have ever asked for. The other things I have not received yet.
In this short experience you will see.
When we went to the fair my little one Lilli noticed a quarter on the ground. She of course went to pick it up to feel the abundance of the universe. But struggled to get it off the ground. I then tried to do it myself thinking it would be easy.
It was stuck, the kind of stuck were it did not make sense to spend a bunch of time to get it unstuck. So we left to to enjoy more of the "Minnesota Great Big Fat Get Together", well that's what I call it.
Lilli was not happy because in her words "I wanted that Quarter". As we moved on I told her that it was a trick quarter with a camera watching everyone try to pick it up.
We forgot about to glued quarter and continued on with the day. Now it was time for Gelato's, my mouth waters with the thought.
My wife got a big one to share with me because I should not have a whole one and Lilli got a small one all to herself. If you have never had one before, try it next chance you get. My wife claims Gelato's in Italy are better but this was not to bad.
We are pretty much done with them and guess what Lilli finds in hers? The quarter that she wanted, it was at the bottom waiting to be found. The moral of this for me comes from the lesson back in my old blog http://iobmo.blogspot.com/2009/08/you-dont-know-what-you-want.html.
Be careful for what you ask for you just might get it.
Thanks again Universe for proving the Abundance in our life.
OBMO

Know It All...

Are you a know it all? Do you think you are a know it all? Someone you love thinks you are. You might live or visit this person often.

I know a lot, but not even I know "It all". My quote I came up with back in the retail days was, "Its what you know after knowing everything, that matters the most". This person from then knew everything while knowing nothing.

He knew what was going to be on sale, when sale was and not to mention who was on first, second, third not to mention who was stealing home. This was not an opinion he knew it end of conversation.

I however have an opinion on most everything and I am willing to dialog about it. People ask for my opinion on things all the time, so that is why I started OBMO. To express that one opinion that only I have. See we all get to have one. The question is do you express it, or is it snuffed out by an heavely opinionated person like myself?

So like my pops use to say "Big Dummy", "Dont be a Dummy all your life. Thanks pops I am working on that.

And this is just OBMO

A Story of Trusting

A story of trusting.
I was with my oldest going to the local Aldi's to buy food for dinner.

I asked Alyssa to come into store because we were having one of our life talks and they are rare but engaging when we have them. This store does not have everything like a regular one, but it works for me.

After getting everything I told Alyssa that I wanted to look for caned milk. Mostly so we did not have to go to another store to get it. I told her that they might have it because of the diversity that shops there. We went down every aisle looking for this milk while staying present in our life talk.

We were unable to find it so we went upfront to check out. Guess what was sitting at the register? Exactly what we were looking for, in the exact quantity a single can of this milk.

I said this is what trusting does in my life. It provides all of my needs acording to my level of trust.

See I like most could have been mad that I would have to go to another store to get this milk. It is out of the way I am tired or any of those low leval complaints Like everything in life we choose to feel a certain way.

For me I trusted it would be there and when I did not find it I was ok with going to get it at another store. And then that is when the Universe said Yes.

Thanks spirit for proving yet again the abundance in my life.

Namaste

OBMO

What Is Behind That Door?

A man dies and an Angel come to bring him to heaven. While on the way to meet GOD they pass many doors. The man ask what in there? The Angel reply you don't want to see because it is painful to see. The continue on and see another door. Same question what is behind that door? The Angel reply's are you sure you want to see? The man say's yes I really want to see. So they open the door filled with everything that you could imagine or ever even dreamed of. The man asked what is all of this. The Angel reply's this is everything the God had in store for you. The man was saddened by this fact. To my understanding it is because we lack faith and it limits us from achieving all that is waiting for us to explore.

So have faith for it is the only thing we will be judge on.

OBMO

Health Care Reform What Is The Debate?

Health Care reforms what is the Debate just fix it!

I don’t think this is an easy issue that can be easily reformed in a year and a day or even a single term. What I do know is that it affects us all weather we ignore it or not.

I hate to say this but deep in my heart I know this is another one of those issues that is all about money. Yes I said it all about money. The reason I say that is because if you have health insurance and you believe it to be good why do you care? Let me tell you why you should care. Even if your caring is for selfish reason such as you want to make sure you or child does not get sick because of someone else who is sick only because they don’t go see a doctor. I understand it is a choice to go the doctor but if you know you can’t afford to pay them, that is what the mind will tell you. Hell I do it with my prescriptions. This is a mindset and is something to think about for all of us.

Let me describe this selfish way of thinking in a story that I heard from the Minister Louis Farrakhan. If your neighbor’s house catches on fire do you not go and put one-bucket on the fire? Even if you throw that bucket only to prevent your house from catching flame, help your neighbor buddy.

Now I will be the first one to tell you that I don’t agree with everything that he speaks. Let me repeat I don’t agree with everything that he speaks, but I don’t agree with everything anyone say’s. Not my mom not my grandma and if you know me I have the most utmost respect for them. I think the commercial said, “You can learn a lot from a dummy”. I am not saying anyone is a dummy here but you should get the point.

Knowledge is power and don’t limit where that knowledge comes from. Such as learning what the trees have to teach us just the same as what the ocean has to teach us as well. Kids are a great source of knowledge because they have limited filters and see things more clear because the value of money has not hit them yet.

Back to this health care issue. I have no problems with any company making a profit. I am trying to make one myself with my own business. My real question is how much money do you need? Yes I understand public traded company’s have shareholders to pay but lets keep it real. If the median household income is 50k what the hell can you do with 50m? That is a lot of coin to any of us well me I know it is. Now your intelligent question should be 50m is not a lot for a company. Good question. The example that gets me is a CEO of an oil company last year has a salary of 100+k. But from all the bonuses grossed millions. Do the math at the one of the worst economic times of record profits with almost $4/gallon for gas. I have a problem with this.

The last thing I want to say is if you know how to fix or help this process of reform where are you? The government is looking for you and people without insurance or even people with insurance need you. Are you a part of the problem or the solution, if you know how to fix it and don’t. You just as well had not known because your lack of sharing makes you a part of the problem. I was recently involved in a mini workout at my job. Six Sigma, Black Belt type of workout and everyone involved had the chance to give input. If any of us did not share and we don’t like the result it is out own fault.

OBMO

Life The Great Equalizer

Why do people who abuse power get more? Why does the good guy always seem to finish last? Why do we care?

I call life the great equalizer because sooner or later it will catch up to you. If you only take a snapshot of it, it could look messed up or it could look beautiful. Depending on if you are going up or down in the infitite.

But when you run the whole race that pretty dude does not have the energy to finish strong. Why you ask? Because to much of the energy was spend on the wrong things.

Yes we want to look good running the race but it is more important to finish. If you can look good the whole race is better then just looking good in a moment such as the beginning or the end.

I guess what I am trying to tell myself is it is greater later. What is even more funny is I know the promise.

The promise that all of my needed will be provided for. See the creator took care of me when I had a job as well as when I did not have a job. It is the mean time in between time is where I keep getting stuck. This too shall pass for I have the faith the size of a mustard seed. For this I know because my creator tells me so.

I want to thank you for reading this. By reading this you support my desire to be positive in a what seems to be a negative charged world. I am shifting that energy one blog or thought at a time.

OBMO

Do Cops Ever Get Charged?

Do cops ever get charged for the abuse the commit on citizens?

I am not saying they don't but it seems that even with video, eye witnesses they never seems to get jail time. They get put on leave with pay usually and then are put back on the street.

Why is it we don't hold cops that go outside of the cop rule book to the same standards are we do any other criminal.

Something to think about as I have stated before they are a gang with the law behind them. When they follow the rules they are good but when they don't they should be prosecuted as well. Not just because of public out cry but because the law is the law no matter who you are.

OBMO

What Would You Do?

What would you do when some one you would die says you mean less the someone else? Or not in my case but they say they don't love you at all?

I don't believe this myself in my case but what if? I don't love expecting to be loved back. I love because it is in me to give. This is were the gift is in the giving comes in to play. If a person does not receive the gift, then who is the receiver of the gift? This is something we as a people need to work on in my opinion.

To love some one without expectations is a freeing type of love. Now don't get it twisted because we all have a need to be loved. It is human nature to desire it. But expecting to be loved in a certain way will cause great pain to your growth.

This kind of love can only be expected as a child seeking love from a parent.

I heard a wise women say "Do it anyways"
http://prayerfoundation.org/mother_teresa_do_it_anyway.htm

So I ask that we all "Do it anyways"

Thanks for helping me learn this lesson even better. I choose you Nana now and forever!

OBMO

The New Gold Rush

What do you consider a Gold Rush? I keep waking up with this thought in my head. I have done some more reading about good old route 66 because it has been a long time since I have.

My oldest is moving west to go to an acting school to be a pro actress. See she already is an actress bit that transition to pro is the next step.

As much as it scares me for her to not to be living in my house. It brings me great joy to see her working craft unfold in front of me. I realize that she is growing up and maturing beyond her years. And we are close to the time when she leaves the nest. I like most parents always knew this would come, but this has happened seemingly quicker then expected.

This must be the New Gold Rush because I am thinking about it a lot these days.

When you watch the only piece of video I know of with her acting you will see (You Can't Take it With You). You will see what I see and what she knows deep in her know. I have no doubt in my mind that she will "Strike Gold" as long as she keeps her zero point focus on her craft.

We all can do great things even if we don't find Gold at first. We just need to remember that Gold is down there somewhere. Having that courage or blind faith is what is required to do these types of great things.

To travel from a place of precived comfortability (home) to an unknown place only to discover "Gold" is the type of faith required to achieve great things. If you have not figured out what the Gold represents it is Self Fufilment.

My question is are you willing to take the required steps to achieve your dream? Do you even know what your dream looks like? Do you have a dream? If for whatever reason you don't know take the time to find out because we are all on a Gold Rush.

OBMO

What is a good tip?

Do you tip at buffets or when you go out to eat or have food delivered? If so what is your standard tip you give for good service? Is a standard 10% - 20%?

I almost always tip 10% as a Standard Min. at all service type establishments. I think the most I have ever tipped was 25% for great service.

What is really funny is when I tip below 10% or over 20% I ask to speak with the manager. Either way the server is nervous but I feel good service should be acknowledged as well as bad.

As a part time pizza driver I understand the impact of low tippers. Most service persons make the min. wage and depend on your tip to compensate that base wage.

For me I have started to decline to take deliveries outside of the zone because they seem to tip the worst. That just seems messed up to me because they are out of the zone and I would think they would tip better.

Your pay should equal you worth and for that you will need to start your own business to earn that. While a tip is a small token of ones appreciation of what you do or did.

With that said think about your tips and tip according to the service you get from the person providing the service. Don't tip less because food is expensive because the person providing you with service usually is not the owner.

OBMO

You Don't know what you want!

People think they know what they want, they don't. I know this because I have asked for things in my life that I have received and I wish I would not have. Not that I have not learned from the experiences but I do wish I would have chosen differently.

The biggest thing for me right now is my house or our house. I should have never got this house and I knew it when I got it. But I believed in what we were doing more so I went along with it. After a troubled economy and no OT at work I am in a place of not wanting to keep this place because life as I know it has changed. It is time to live again and that is the type of change I am looking for.

My wife's uncle had a million+ dollar house and the taxes were 30k. My question to you is would you be ok paying that type of money to live in a house? I would because if I can afford it I have no problem with spending money. For me it is not being able to afford it is were my issues come in. I choose life over things and I will give it up to have it all. But I know some people would not be able to because that is a lot of money just for taxes. And lets just keep it real, you can only sleep in 1 bed per night and use only 1 bathroom at a time. So what is the need for 10 rooms or 15 bathrooms?

I hear many people say I don't like paying taxes or I pay to much in taxes. I am thinking that if I was paying say a Million bucks in taxes a year I am doing dam good for myself. And I can't wait for the day to come because it is on it way. The reason is this, do the math if you pay a 1/3 of your gross in taxes your gross was 3 Million. Now we know that if you are making that type of money you have deductions and other things so your gross was really more then that but for numbers that is good money.

Not everyone is fit to be wealthy, I say fit because your mind must be fit as well. Don't be fooled to think that you only have to spend the money. You have to keep it and/or make it, and that is a job in itself.

Short story of how this lesson was taught to me. My aunt is 6 month and 25 day's older then me so we were raised like brother and sister basically.

The lesson started like this:
Grandma can I have a dollar? See I would always ask first because I had no reservation about asking for what I wanted or needed. She would reach and give me a dollar without question.
My aunt would come right behind me and ask for 5 dollars! I would be like Grandma why did you give her 5 and me only 1? You only asked for a dollar baby.

My point is just like my grandma told me "Be careful what you ask for, because you might just get it".

Thanks Grandma I have chewed on this meat for many years and plan on it feeding me for many more.

Black People Stand Up

My people stand up & say it loud... if you don't know the words "I am Black and I am Proud"

But even more importantly be proud! We as a people do a lot of yelling and don't act very proudly. Yes we have selfish pride that is self serving, meaning it serves only self.

But we lack the type of pride that is serving all of the human race, not all of course Blacks.

I am very troubled to to fact that we as a people are fighting on two fronts. Our leaders or role models are being killed by blacks and whites. My issue is the obvious but mostly because of the recent news of hideous crimes against our people. Black are committing crimes against other blacks because they lack respect. And whites are taking committing crimes against our people because they are taking their perceived power to a new level.

Such as white cops shooting blacks in handcuffs while in custody or these black on blacks for money, cars, chains, rims or whatever.

Read, "Get up get out and get something". We as a nation of people want but are not willing to do what is required to get it. So this is why we steal lie and cheat.

It is time to sow good seed to reap good fruits

Seed time and harvest = faith.

Crooked Officer

I hate crooked officers. Why?
"Crooked officers crooked officers I know you want to see me in a coffin sir" Ghetto Boy's (Scarface)

Because they like any other bad seed give a bad name to good crops or cops in this case.

It is a shame when the cops come to your house and ask "is this your house". I tend to think no I am robbing the place and decided answer the door. The kicker is that is what they are thinking.

In the case of breaking into your own house and the cops show up. Then take you to jail, charge you with breaking and entering into your own house. That is a pile of shit and here is why. Someone not only seen you break in but watched you break in. If it was night time I give your naibor a small break. In the sense that the could not tell if it was you. But here is the twist, they would not be able to see you or any one either.

Now here is the skinny. That same person see's you use your key to gain access on many times but does not take time to get to know you. Not your name or your childrens names or really anything about you. They seen all they needed to see, another Black family. Or better yet you are the first and they sigh and say "there goes the peace and quiet".

My point is they knew it was you and it was your house. But what better way to send a message to you and yours. Then to call the police, I bet you trust they are watching you now!

Non Black people (whites) get "are your parents home". I can understand being upset with that on some level. But let's be honest that is a complement. Just like being asked for ID to buy beer.

So I am going to tell you the same I tell my child and myself. "I am smart, intelligent & beautiful"!

So if I am we are because we are the same just with different mothers

OBMO

What is easy to Do...

"What is easy to do, is easy not to do"

Have you ever told yourself I will do that tomorrow and not? Have you ever went on a trip and needed to get a lot of things done before and did get them done? I mean amazingly get them all done.

What I have found to be true for me is the things I think will be hard tend to come easy. While the things I see as easy seem to be the most challenging.

Why is that? Is it that I have done less prep work because I told myself it would be easy? Is it because I do so much prep for the hard stuff it seems easy?

What this has just showed me is every event if possible should be approached the same. The quote
I like is "Treat my first like my last, and my last like my first" Jay-Z.
It keeps you thirsty and hungry without being cocky. Because you realize this is my first, and it could be my last.

Some might think of a batter or pitcher that does some what looks to be weird stuff like adjust his shirt or smack his hat or spit in his hands.

While some will like to take an airplane for example. Its approach is the same whenever its landing.

What is easy to do, is easy not to do because we tell ourselves it is easy and can be easily done later. But if we keep putting of til tomorrow for what we can do today. Tomorrow will be filled with to many things too do in one day.

OBMO

What does the N-Word Mean?

I have been inspired by a 10 year old Johnathan E. McCoy. It is amazing how much we can learn from our youth yet we tend to tell them to be seen and not heard. The issue with that is we have exposed them to way to much for them to set back and not be heard.

This N-Word has never been defined in the way Johanthen has helped me to understand it, he has made a impact on my life and inspired me to be better then I was yesterday. I use to be the one to defend for the free use of the word, after hearing this speech It needs no more defending from me. I will still defend the rights for ignorant people to use but not in a way that tried to make people understand what the word really means. For those of you please feel free to be a part of the issue rather then a part of the solution.

At the ripe young age of 10 he realizes the impact of words and what it does to a people. I have said this word many times without regard to the impact it has on our souls. When I use to say it I would say it to anyone White or Black depending on my relationship with them, and not consider the impact on the soul. The soul must be sore of numb to this word because it is not a empowering word.
I have just realized this words imitating meaning and don't want to cause limits in any of our lives. We need to be one with our thoughts and intentions and use our strengths vs. our weaknesses to achieve all things that are in store for us. To be empowering is what we all want and need in life similar to how we encourage a runner to keep running when they are tired, "you can do it" we tell them.

My oldest told me that I cuss because I have a limited vocabulary that would say that I used the N-Word because of the same reason. On many levels she is right because I don't know all the words in the dictionary that could help me articulate my feelings rather then just saying a word that everyone knows the meaning of.

If you are one of the many people that find truth in using this word please feel free to use at your own will. Just keep living and life will happen to you as well, and you too will be inspired to choose again. In life we have free will and if we don't like what we see, "we can change the way we look at it and what we look at will change" Wayne Dyer.

Life is what we make it so make it the way you want it, if you have given your power away then take it back because you can't loose what is yours. And you can't give away what is not yours to give away.

With that said lets all join in agreement and stop hindering ourselves and others with a word that is desecrating us from the inside out.

Thanks Johnathan for inspiring me

OBMO

Too Black Too Strong

Here we are in 2009 with a President who happens to be Black and it just as well may be back in the 60's.

The best way to describe this is "Fear of a Black Planet". Are we as a people of the human race in fear? Did you think that you could tell us the rules of the game and we would not master them? Are you really scared to changed "the complexion" and "atmosphere" of our world?

I heard this morning that some if not all of these kids are scared forever from this Creative Steps Day Care Center. I can truly say that I don't recall any type of racial segregation like this in my life. This is very troubling to me because it is a Jim Crow thing just as you have always said Uncle.

How does the below make you feel? Please write your comments I want to hear them

Hard to imagine my people use to deal with this and even harder to imagine my people dealing with this today in 2009.

What the hell are we fighting for?

It is funny to me that most all White people want to be darker by tanning, have fuller lips and a nice ass. But from looking at this picture they could not drink from the same faucet or from what is going on today not swim in the same pool? What is that?

I don't think all people are racist even though I do know we all have it in us, ya I said it. I have to deal with this fear in my own marriage. My wife's family can't accept me because I am not Italian. This is only hard for me because my wife rightfully so loves her family and want a relationship with them and our marriage has cause some distance in those relationships in my perception.

What I wish people would understand is we are more alike then we are different. We tend to let our differences dictate to us on how to live our life rather then merging our core strengths to be stronger. We are stronger together then we are alone, doing on our own. Example lets just say you can push 100 pounds and I can push 100 pounds, do you think we together working as one can only push 200 pounds? The answer is no we can push more together then we can push alone.

We as a people as a race need to find a way to make this and turn this to a positive for us all. I don't know about you but we can't afford to have another Civil War, and I will tell you why. Black folks are ready NOW! We can read, write, listen, shoot, swim, and be peaceful. Lets all pray for peace.

I want to end with this message from Tupac as I have interpreted it:

The struggle:

I am hungry, my family is hungry.

I see through the window food, fun and laughter.

I knock you open I ask you for some food so I can feed my family?

You respond "No Food In Here"

I wait to gain courage to know again because I know you have food I seen it.

I knock again and ask you please can you spare some food so I can feed my family?

You respond "No Food In Here".

I leave defeated until I realize I can't take it no more.

Now I don't knock on the door, now I break the door down and I am not asking anymore. Now I am taking what I want with my tool.

The moral of this story to me is I am only going to ask a few times for what I need, and being a part of the struggle is what leads to the need to take. I am not saying it is right, but I am saying I understand.

Now we have other tools in the toolbox that we can use.

Genesis 26:27-29

27And Isaac said to them, Why have you come to me, seeing that you hate me and have sent me away from you?
28They said, We saw that the Lord was certainly with you; so we said, Let there be now an oath between us [carrying a curse with it to befall the one who breaks it], even between you and us, and let us make a covenant with you
29That you will do us no harm, inasmuch as we have not touched you and have done to you nothing but good and have sent you away in peace. You are now the blessed or favored of the Lord!

OBMO

The Gift is in the Giving

"The Gift is in the giving"

I was told by a close relative of mine that "When I go I am going to leave you everything I have". This was hard for me to swallow one because it reminded me of the kind of think my mother told me. The biggest difference is she did not say she was going to give me everything she has, the first reason is she is married to my dad. Second I am the oldest with two brothers.

When he told me this I spoke to him very strongly with "Keep your money and stay alive, live life and lets do what we have been talking about". The things we have been talking about are business ventures of how to help Young Black's with life skills, and well as Homeless Vets and many different for profit ventures. When my mom told me what she said I told her "I want you not the money". I think this is why my response to this family member was so profound.

Now please understand what I am about to say because it is very important that you do. To quote my good friend TD Jakes "I am not turning down no good things, I have had enough bad things find me". I use this quote because we must understand the gift is in the giving and we must honor and respect those that want to give good things to us. It is just as important to receive then it is to give because the gift is in the giving and givers have a hard time receiving.

I do not expect anyone to give me anything because I am not looking for any handouts, I am always looking forward to hand ups. That makes me think of the first time I have ever gone fishing. My uncle took me to Nokomis to fish and I remember getting up early to go get bait in Richfield. I don't remember if we caught anything and I don't think we would have kept it anyways because from what I can see those fish don't look eatable.

The issue I have with accepting a gift after someone has passed is the feeling of responsibility to do the right thing with it. It is hard to follow a persons wish when you are not familiar with what they want done with these possessions.

I want to thank you for the gift you claim to give but like I said before keep your everything and lets do this.

That is OBMO

Be the best you

As we mourn the Great Michael Jackson it is easy to get in the place where we get stuck in all that he was able to do. The real question is "Do you" to quote a common saying from BK (Brooklyn).



I find it hard to look at someone's life as anything more then a Great oppertunity for them to have & be what they want to be. Me myself and I need to worry about Self, not in a selfish way but. If you know how to be sucessful then I say go and be sucessful, because that is a beautiful thing for you to be, but it does not help me for you to be. Unless this is the type of sucess that we both can share in as we are not a unit of one in most cases when it comes to sucess.

My God is so powerful that he shuts doors, and some times many of them to get us to see how powerful we are. For me he is helping me to realize that no man holds my dream, it is truly between God and me!

Michael was the best him he could be and he had issues of his own that only he could handle, as we all do. We never got to see him in the ways we are now, such as with the drug addiction being the big thing now. The reason being he did not get his drugs from the streets of LA his were administered by nurses and doctors. This fact does not make it right or wrong just sad that we kind of accept this as normal. I say normal because if Mike smoked crack we would be up in arms about his use of it, but this is the legal stuff.

How can you "Be the best you"? Is it by looking at the man/women in the mirror? Is it by finding your purpose in the world and unfolding it so the world can see? Or is it playing small to serve the world? I feel we spend most of our time playing small to serve ourselves and the world. Why? Great question! We play small because we are scared of ourselves, or failures as well as our greatness. We tend to think fitting in is more important then being true to self.

If Obama & Michael have learned (sorry I had to say it) me anything it is to DO IT, and DO IT NOW! The time is here, if you are waiting for the perfect day and time to do your purpose. You just as well just give up know, because when you find the perfection the creater will be calling for you. The reason is because GOD is looking for a few good men/women.

If you notice the bible is always talking about healing the sick and the people society would consider the less then or "The Least Among Us" (Luke 9:48). If we look at michael for example poor family from GI, it can be said that his hard work and the controversal dicipline from Joe Mikes dad played a part in the success of the family. But really it was GODs will who provided for the family. If it was a person who was already rich say Donald Trump we would say it is because his Dad was rich. Even though GOD was and is present in both situations. I am talking about our preseption of how this came to pass. We look at the Jackson and say it had to be GOD and we look at The Don and say he just had a rich daddy.

Bottom line is this Do Whatever It Takes (WIT) to get to the place you are going, and don't be affraid of what you will encounter along the way. For everything we encounter has a purpose for our purpose to grow beyond our mental limitations.

When you think of others remember these lyrics from Michael Jacksons song "WILL YOU BE THERE"

Hold MeLike The River JordanAnd I Will Then Say To TheeYou Are My Friend

Carry MeLike You Are My BrotherLove Me Like A MotherWill You Be There?

WearyTell Me Will You Hold MeWhen Wrong, Will You Scold MeWhen Lost Will You Find Me?

But They Told MeA Man Should Be FaithfulAnd Walk When Not AbleAnd Fight Till The EndBut I'm Only Human

Everyone's Taking Control Of MeSeems That The World'sGot A Role For MeI'm So ConfusedWill You Show To MeYou'll Be There For MeAnd Care Enough To Bear Me

In Our Darkest Hour
In My Deepest Despair
Will You Still Care?

Will You Be There?

In My Trials
And My Tribulations
Through Our Doubts
And Frustrations
In My Violence
In My Turbulence
Through My Fear
And My Confessions
In My Anguish And My Pain
Through My Joy And My Sorrow
In The Promise Of Another Tomorrow
I'll Never Let You Part
For You're Always In My Heart.

I think this song say's it all!

Thanks Nik for having my back
OBMO

Do you feel on your own?

I was asked by my wife "are we on our own" meaning do we support each other or more importantly do I support her.

My answer is yes we are on our own. The reason being is we come into this world on our own, we will leave on our own. In addition to being on our own we have lots of people in between that time of birth to death that help us along our journey.

Even though we are on our own we have a creator that I know as GOD who is there with us the whole time. When I think about my GOD he is waiting for me to get out of the way and allow all the glory that is in store for me.

It gets right back to the point of FEAR, and this will stop you from breathing, living and loving if you let it. The whole time the spirit of the living GOD is there willing, ready and able to do all things if we just believe. Not only believe that he will but believe that it has already been done.

While we are on our own don't we still have the support of our friends and family? I think so because GOD has no power here on earth. Ya I said it, no power here on earth. All of the power comes from the workings of God's people.

I will give you an example of what I am talking about. I was a temporary employee at a fortune 500 company and was close to my 1 year contact expiring and was going to be let go. I did not worry about this because I have great faith in my work ethic and knew things would work out for me.

The person that worked in my current role decided to move on to another company leaving an open position. This is called free will on the part of the person leaving, God's will was working as well to provide me with a permanent position with this company. The person knew that I wanted to gain employment so was he also on my side? I think so on some level even thought I think he wanted someone else to be in the position but understood that the best person in the eyes of the person doing the hiring would select the best person for the job.

We tend to give up on things when we are close to being at the finish or as my wife stated the "Door of Bliss". When we choose what is in our heart is that not bliss? I would say that it is the universe working to give us the Yes principle described in another blog of mine. If that is true do we really make mistakes? They appear to be mistakes but are really all things coming together to give us what we want. Hence is why I told my wife that YES she was turning away at the point when she was the closest. To be honest I have no idea but if she believes it, it is.

While God is her true help meat and I am there for her when she needs it. In some or most cases I don't know how or for what but I am there. I am never there in the way's she wants such as talking, walking or saying the right things at the right times. I tend to say the wrong thing at the wrong time, but is it really the wrong time? I don't really believe in accidents, I believe everything happens for a reason.

Support for me is not supporting them when the going is good or when you support someone for who you want them to be. Supporting someone is knowing that they are going to get through the issue. People want to be loved and trusted the same way that I feel my God supports me. I think we as humans can support our friends and family's in the same ways but after choose not to because we are lacking in the faith that the person is supporting us.

Thanks Nikki for inspiring this blog

OBMO

If anyone can do it, it is you

"If anyone can do it, it is you" is what my mom always tells me when I have a challenge in my life.

I just seen this commercial "Encouragement - Pass it on" on local TV while visiting my Grandma today.

What does it mean to you? It reminded me of all the people in my life that have always been of great Encouragement to me. We all need it and deserve it just the same. It would take a lot for a person to go in through the out door or in this case to go through the Stage Entrance no Public Access door, then to top it off start playing the piano.

This magic is what we all feel as kids the willingness to do whatever comes to mind. It is what I feel from my Mother and my Grandma. They set the expectation so high for me with out really expecting. I say without expecting because it was never, your going to be a doctor or you are going to be the top sells person. It has always been you are fine the way you are or you will get through this as well.

If you want to see people smile talk about them or what they can do well. Give them the encouragement rather then the discouragement. My grandma always said "speak to people to get action, not a reaction" or "its what your mouth says that get you in trouble". This is type of talk was huge for me because negative thinking and talking is everywhere and we have to decide what we are going to allow to effect us. Remember back to the blog talking about what we think about expands.

To empower someone is to give them back the power they already have back. Since we are all energy and we transfer energy between us it is important to not allow others to take our energy exspecially our good energy.

This has really started to remind me of one of my favorite school teachers back at the burn. He was a math teacher and I liked math and this teacher was the teaching of the highest level of math in the school.

He was able to see past my coolness of fitting in being the class clown and said to me Chuck please wait after class I need to talk to you. Of course I gave him the old "I have to go to class and will be late if I stay to talk to you. He then of course gave me a pass for arriving late to my next class, but I will never forget what he told me. He looked me in my face and told me "you are not stupid"! I had felt stupid for quite some time because people are always trying to be right. And in order for someone to be right someone has to be wrong. Him telling me that let me know I could not play small in his class and forced me to work harder because I could not fool him. Its just like the things my Mom's us to tell me, and they have helped to shape my life in a good way.

The moral of this Blog is to be the help meat, throw a dog a bone. Encourage some risk taking because if you don't get it from home you are less likely to do it when you are older. You will grow to be that tall palm tree that is unable to sway in the wind of adversity.

Thanks Mom for everything exceptionally the ENCOURAGEMENT

OBMO

Do you really want to be famous?

"I can make you famous" This quote is not as famous but I always think of your picture in the obituary

As a child I was introduced to the modeling profession and hated it. I hated it because of the faking you need to do. I loved the money $50 - $100/hr to take pictures. Boy was I fooled when I learned that you had to fake it a lot.

For me I had to pretend a man was my father while taking pictures with my real mother. This was very hard for me at the time because my Dad was still in my life at that point. I got paid for the job even though they did not use me for the print ad, and that is rare.

My mother God bless her heart that she was never the pushy type to make me do something like this when I was not comfortable with things like this. Don't get me wrong I had more then enough things that she made me do and I am grateful for that.

We or at least I have experience a shock that really is no shock. I say it is not a shock because did we not think Michael Jackson would die? I did, I just did not think it would be any time soon. Why do you ask? Great question because Michael has been bigger then life for as long as I can remember. And not so large in life at the same time because I grew up being told by my pops that he is my cousin deep down the tree. I always remember thinking if he is our cousin how come he is not at any family reunions or why are we not living large? I know he is related because when my grandpa (pops) dad died his family the Jackson's were there and they signed the Guest Book.

The real point of this blog is to ask the hard question of when has a child star lived life without issues? I already know that this is a loaded question because life has issues. So what makes child stars so special? I don't know one that does not, usually they are big issues like drugs, drinking, relationship issues. I know we all have these issues but they seem to be worse with child stars.

In Michael's case imagine growing up without being able to play at the park or go to school and make new friends? I can't do it because his way of life is unimaginable to me. I don't give him a pass but I understand. People are quick to talk about his skin being bleach. I can say one way or another, but what I do know is my cousins great grandpa had that same disease so I know it is real. It can never be proven with Michael because of his fame.

Look at ball players that go Pro after high school. Do they have issues? I only know of one and that is GNet (Kevin Garnet), and I think that has most to do with the fact that he was in boring Minnesota when he started playing Pro Ball. I don't really know if that is true that he does not have issues, but it makes some sense to my simple mind.

I will end this blog with some good quotes:
"Say Say Say"
"Man in the Mirror"
"Heal the World"
"Black or White"

OBMO